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The latest update forThe Sims 4now has a new customization option for Sims, which changes what their romantic boundaries are and how they work. This is mostly for players whowant as many options open for them as possible with the romantic relationships between their Sims. Players will be able to fine-tune exactly how their Sims behave around their partners and how that affects their emotions and other relationships.
TheLovestruckexpansion for theSims 4brought a fair number of updates and changes, but this particular change isnot just limited to expansion owners. No matter if you have bought every DLC or none of them, the romantic boundaries feature is now a part of the base game as of the latest update. This will allow you to dive even deeper into every Sim’s psyche and truly analyze howthey would feel about their relationships with others.
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All Four Romantic Boundaries In The Sims 4 Explained
Attitudes Toward Others
The Create-A-Sim feature should be well familiar to players by now, as it is where you domost of your customizing of any Sims you create. This is also where the new romantic boundaries of each Sim can be modified and changed. The basic application of these boundaries is that they affect your Sims’ reactions to their romantic partners when they interact romantically with other Sims. Being able to modify thismeans players can now put their Sims in polyamorous relationships.
There arefour total settings that can be altered or changed at any time. How they are set determines how jealous - or not - your Sims will be toward others.
Effects
#1 (Non-Physical Romance)
If you select yes, your Sim will feel jealous if they see their partner engage in any acts of non-physical romance with other Sims.
#2 (Physical Romance, except WooHoo)
If you select yes, your Sim will feel jealous if they see their partner engage in any acts of physical romance, such as snuggling or kissing, with other Sims. This does not include WooHoo-ing.
#3 (WooHoo)
If you select yes, your Sim will feel jealous if they see their partner engage in WooHoo with any other Sim.
#4 (Changing Attitudes)
If you select yes, your Sim’s selected preferences can be changed by gameplay.
The last setting is not about how jealous they become but ratherwhether they can be persuaded to change their minds through gameplay optionslike dialogue. However, even with this item selected, it does not guarantee that they will change their mind andthe persuasion can fail. This all depends on how good their relationship is, which can be determined by things like thenew attraction scale inThe Sims 4: Lovestruck.
How To Select Romantic Boundaries
Create-A-Sim
You will want to go into the Create-A-Sim page andselect the Sim whose boundaries you want to adjust. From there, go all the way to the left under the two gender icons and click on the drop-down menu. It looks like three dots before you click on it. After that, there will be three tabs:Gender, Sexual Orientation, and Romantic Boundaries. Click on the third to make the changes you want.
All Sims will haveall items checked “yes” to begin with, meaning they will be jealous if those scenarios occur.
If you select yes, thatmeans your Sims will be jealous if the scenarios listed next to them occur. If you select no, they will not become jealous. Sims will have less chance of becoming jealous the more answers that are selected as no. You can go back to Create-A-Sim andchange these boundaries at any time, so you do not have to be bound by what you select first.
If you want to test the waters, you may change the romantic boundaries in the dialogue options. You will want to select the current Sim’s romantic partner and then choose“Relationship” - “Change Relationship” - “Ask To Reconsider Romantic Boundaries”to make your case to persuade them otherwise. However, they can say no, and if you did not select their Romantic Boundaries yourself, you will not know what their default answer is to being persuaded toward change, and there may be afairly high chance of failure.
How Romantic Boundaries Function In-Game
Polyamory & Jealousy
The main dichotomy for this particular trait will behow open to polyamory your Sim is and how jealous they will get. The more open and the more options you select no to, the more your Sim will be able to have additional romantic partners without their current partner becoming jealous or upset. These options determinewhich actions each Sim can take without becoming too jealous. This might come into account if your Sim ends up on a dating show, as you can see inlilsimise’s YouTube video.
For instance, Option 1 means that Simscan see their romantic partner flirt and converse with other Simswithout getting jealous. Option 2 means that Sims can see their partner perform physical acts of affection with someone else (except WooHoo) without feeling jealous. Lastly, Option 3 meansSims can WooHoo without their partner getting jealous. Sims that have all of these traits set to “no” will have a very hard time getting the jealous trait at all and may never.
If you get or create a Sim with the Jealous trait without selecting “yes” you should be aware thatthey can still get tenseif they catch their partner having a romance with another Sim.
Despite the new system for polyamory and open relationships, there isno way in the game currently to marry more than one Sim. You can still only have one marriage partner and, if you want to change the spouse of your current Sim, you will have to completely divorce one partner to marry the other. There aremods for theSims 4that would allow this, but without those, you will have to settle for having open relationships andonly one spouse.
This is true even with the paid Lovestruck DLC, but the bright side is thatyou fully customize your relationships apart from that. This will help you achieve the best romantic aspirations in the game and find a good balance between the various types of relationships. And, now that you know how relationship boundaries work, you can choose the spouse you want inThe Sims 4.
